Filipinas and Black Men

Let’s say you are an African-American man who is interested in finding love in the question-mark-lovePhilippines.  You may be wondering if you have a chance of winning a Filipina’s heart.  I’ll do my best to answer that question.

As I’ve mentioned before (see: Filipina Beauty), people in the Philippines tend to prefer Caucasian physical characteristics, such as a pointy nose, blue eyes, and light skin.  They avoid sun exposure (for fear of getting darker) and spend a lot of money on “skin whitening” products. Some of the most popular celebrities are half Caucasian.  This is simply the way it is right now.

But that doesn’t mean an African-American has no chance.  I’ve met quite a few black men who are happily married to Filipina women (almost all the ones I’ve met are retired military guys).  One of my readers (a retired black gentleman) recently let me know he’s had a really good response to his profile on a dating website.

So I would never discourage anyone, regardless of skin color, from looking for love in the Philippines.  I would offer a few tips:

*Be sure to post your profile picture.  You want to know upfront if the one you are chatting with is really open to you.

*This may sound obvious, but I would encourage you to ignore profiles that express a preference for white men only.  Don’t waste your time trying to convince someone who is not open-minded.

*Visit the Philippines if at all possible.  I think you’ll find that Filipinos are very warm and friendly to all regardless of skin color.

Are Filipinas Open to Divorced Men?


The answer is yes.

I’ve met more than one divorced man who is now married to a Filipina.  These guys often tell me they really appreciate the more traditional/conservative outlook of women in the Philippines.

Just remember there is no divorce in the Philippines, and marriage is taken very seriously here.  You’ll need to be 100% honest and explain exactly why your first marriage didn’t work out.  Filipinas tend to be very understanding, but please be honest.

What if she is separated?  I’ve addressed this in a previous post:

Should I get involved with a Filipina who is Separated? 

Filipina Online Dating: How Many Messages will I Get?


The answer, of course, depends on several factors.  Your age, your picture, what you say in your profile–all of these affect your attractiveness to women in the Philippines looking for love.

I will tell you this–I get at least a couple of messages a day (usually more), even when I’m not actively searching the site.  These are women who found me–all I “did” was keep my membership going.  As long as you are on a good, well-known site with plenty of members, you’ll get contacted.

You won’t be interested in everyone who emails you.  But every message is another possibility for love–another step closer to finding love in the Philippines.