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Author: Marry a Filipina
Why Many Western Men Choose Filipinas
Many Western men choose to build a relationship with a woman from the Philippines. Some even choose to marry a Filipina. But what makes Filipino women so wanted? These are some thoughts I have collected over the years. What would you add to the list?
1. Filipina girls are renowned for their beauty.
They surely stand out among Asian women in terms of charm and femininity.
2. Filipino girls are a delight to be around because of their disposition and personality.
Since birth Filipinas are raised in a special sense of honor called Delikadesa (or Delicadeza). Delicadeza is a Spanish term which when translated in English means daintiness. It is defined as a sense of propriety, an act of being refined or delicate in tastes and manners. It is Delikadesa what gives Filipino women such admirable qualities and distinguish them from Western ladies. You will never find a proper Filipina bring shame onto herself and her family by lying, cheating, stealing, running around with different men or flunking out of school. It is one of the meanings of Delikadesa – pride in doing the right thing.
3. Filipinas are understanding, patient and composed.
Most Filipina girls would never engage in a quarrel or a loud argument simply because this wouldn’t suit a real Lady. They are taught to speak politely, with a gentle tone of voice. Arguing is just not acceptable, along with public criticism. This soft spoken, quiet and understanding nature of the Filipina Ladies is the desired trait that Filipinas strive towards.
4. Filipina girls are generous and naturally caring and supportive.
The common spirit of survival has united the Filipinos for centuries making generosity and loyalty towards family a time-honored tradition. The caring and supportive nature of the Filipinas is apparent in the fact that there are no booming businesses for retirement homes or orphanages in the Philippines – they would never abandon a child or a member of the family in need.
5. Filipina girls believe in a one-man one-woman relationship.
Since there is no “absolute divorce” in the Philippines, Filipinas are raised in a high regard for the sanctity of marriage and consider it a life long commitment. Some, in fact many who marry these Filipina beauties, swear they make the best wives in the world – loyal, loving and faithful past death.
6. Filipina women put family first before money.
Faithfulness to the family is a tradition that is characteristic of the Filipino society. To the Filipina, family will always remain a great priority. Filipino women, whom many would consider as coming from a relatively poor country, view the close loving bonds of their family as their wealth. They are more willing to sacrifice career than a family.
7. Filipinas are excellent home keepers.
Filipino ladies equate domestic responsibility with being a good wife – their home is a great source of pride for them and they do their best to create a warm and loving environment for their family. For the Filipina even yelling at home would mean de-facing her home so you will probably never find a Filipina woman screaming or breaking dishes.
8. Filipinas are well educated.
The Philippine culture attaches great importance to college education. Pride in accomplishment at school is instilled in Filipinas since their childhood and female college enrollment even exceeds that of the male. This affects the social positions too. Unlike other Asian countries where women tend to be in more subservient positions, the Philippines businesses are more accepting of women performing business. This is apparent with the current Philippine president Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo – the second Philippine woman to hold this esteemed position.
9. Filipino girls are religious.
The Philippines is predominantly Roman Catholic (the only Christian nation in the Far East) and it is common amongst Philippine families to raise their children in the church. So don’t be surprised if your Filipina girl is more devoted to her religion than you are to yours.
10. Filipina-American marriages are more successful than American-American marriages.
An interesting fact is that according to the statistics Filipina-American marriages arranged through dating services have a lower divorce rate (about 20%) than the standard American- American marriage (about 40%). Still, the statistics may vary according to which source you use.
Reposted with permission from one of the groups I’m a member of.
Filpina Online Dating Success Story: Chad
I wanted to share with you my success story and possibly get a link from your blog to my site.
I started my online dating experience over 3 years ago and have been married to my beautiful wife for 2 of them. She is definately the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I met her on one of the “kisses sites” but not without running into at least 20 scammers first. When I first signed onto the site they sent me an email telling me that 90% of the women were scammers or spammers and to be careful. I had been chatting with about 10 women at one time eliminating the scammers one by one but there was one that was very good. I actually talked to her for as long as I did my eventual wife. I knew something was fishy because I never did see her in a cam but we did exchange many pictures and at one point when I thought we were getting serious I sent her money to get her passport. She did and then sent me a scanned copy of it and everything matched up including the date and her picture. I did find out later that she did tell me a larger price to get the passport but I found that out from my wife after I went to visit her in Japan. I had dropped the scammer long before. As you will see if you check out my blog it was just yesterday that the whole truth was revealed to me as I could never prove she was scamming until I found her on another website yesterday with at least 2 profiles with the same pics she was using 2 years ago. This was the proof to me.
Anyway back to my success. After I met the woman that would become my wife. The chatting with other girls got less and less leading up to the time I would go visit her in Japan. I spent at least 1-3 hours a day talking with her over the yahoo messenger phone for almost 6 months before I went to Japan. Of course I was still a bit skeptical when Im getting off the plane but I was there to meet her and put any fears to rest. They were all put down as soon as our eyes met at the baggage pick up and I saw her through the window. She did a little dance of excitement that I will never forget. From then on I knew we would be together. I spent 2 weeks in Japan over my birthday on valentines day and it was the best birthday I had in my life. I even got a nice dragon tattoo to remember my trip to Japan everytime I see it. I still get compliments on it today.
After my trip back home to Michigan I planned a trip to the Philippines so we could be married here and that happened about 5 months later. Then I made one more trip back home and tied up all the loose ends of my business since I decided I would rather live in the Philippines. It was an easy decesion because I work from home on the computer and I really like the life style here.
Since moving here we have bought a house and 6 months ago we had our first child. A bouncing baby boy. I love it here.
I have to say though I dissagree with your assesment that 90% of the women on these sites are true and honest. The site I mentioned above has since stopped sending out the email saying that 90% are scammers or spammers. I checked on that a few months ago when I started research into starting my own site. However I can also tell you that your blog is very informative for those new to online dating of Filipinas and for the most part I could not put it better myself. I really enjoyed reading it.
Thanks for your time and enjoy your time here in the Philippines
Chad
Thanks for this guest post!
The % of scammers may depend on the website you choose. Here’s where we agree–you do have to be careful, but finding love online is possible.