Here’s how to avoid romance scams in the online dating world

Online dating has made it easier for people around the world to connect, but it has also become a platform for scammers to meet their victims. Sadly, these scammers take advantage of the vulnerability that comes with searching for love online earning their victim’s trust and using them for their own gain.

While being vulnerable is not a bad thing, it is essential to pair it with awareness that could save you from potential dangers. By understanding these scammers’ ways, both your emotions and finances can be protected.

Romance scams often follow the same pattern. They present themselves with fake profiles, build an emotional connection with their target and once that’s settled, ask for financial help to address an emergency. The cycle would repeat for as long as
the target continues to fall victim to this practice.

To stay safe, verifying identities and being cautious of relationships that progress too quickly should be a priority. Going on video calls could be one way to ensure that the person you are talking to is who they say they are. Make sure to also establish boundaries that include saying no when asked for money, no matter how convincing the story is. True love is priceless anyway, right?

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Some dating services take steps to protect their users. Christian Filipina, for example, prioritizes security by verifying accounts and encouraging genuine, faith-based relationships. Users are guaranteed to be surrounded by love experts, who will guide them in navigating the online dating world. Their experience in the industry has honed their skills to identify both red and green flags, making them credible sources of assistance and guidance.

When approached wisely, online dating can lead to real love. By staying informed, individuals can navigate the digital dating world safely and increase their chances of finding authentic, lasting relationships.

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The OFW Tourist Visa Scam

There’s a scam that I have been meaning to warn people about for quite a while but I just haven’t had the time.

I’ve had a couple guys email me asking if they are about to be conned/scammed out of money. My answer was “yes, this looks like a scam.” I don’t know how common this type of scam is, but I’m willing to write this quick post if it saves one person from being conned.

Here’s how this scam works:

A Filipina will begin an online relationship with a man from America (other nationalities may be involved–Chinese women may be doing this as well, but these specific scams involve Filipinas).

She will claim to be an OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker) who is working in China.

She will chat with her potential male victim for a few days, then quickly tell him that she wants to come see him. She will then recommend an agency that can make it happen. She will also claim this agency was able to get her friend into the United States.

He contacts the agency and gets an email like this:

Thank you for your correspondence with (name of agency).

According to your request,we can provide tourist / Visit visa (Valid for One to twelve months) for travel and ticket purchased from us.

Please find below basic requirement for visa applications:

(1) Tourist/Visitors Visa (Valid for One to twelve months)

(2) Complete name and address of (Applicant’s friend, relative or family member, including the telephone number)

(3) A valid travel passport good for more than 1 yr for the person traveling

(4) 4 photograph passport sizes.

(5)$150 for the visa fees, Medical Insurance $80 and Medical Examination fees $320 and $150 for Service charge this make the total $700 USD.

(6) A valid Chinese work visa

(7) A confirmed round trip ticket purchased from Shenzhen Dynasty Travel Tours All other document required will be provided by our office

Note: A waiting period of 10(Ten) to 14(Fourteen) working days is needed to process applications.

The Current minimal travel fare for a round trip ticket from Guangzhou, China (CAN) to St. Paul, MN, United States of America (STP) is (Nine Hundred And Eighty United States Dollars) $980 USD flight carrier China Southern Airlines


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Additional $700 Us Dollars for visa fees, medical fees, and service charge will be added to the ticket price, that will give you the total cost for this trip as 1,680 US Dollars

In order to proceed with this application, our office will require the submission of all listed documents and fees.

Should there be any assistance needed, please contact our office.

The total bill is nearly 1700 dollars. But that’s a small price to pay for meeting the woman of your dreams, right?

Look up the agency name and you’ll find an attractive website with beautiful pictures and glowing testimonies.

I don’t have time to do thorough research on this, so let’s just say there are a lot of “red flags” that come to mind:

Here’s the main issue: as I have mentioned before, I never recommend trying to use a tourist visa as a way to meet a Filipina. The US Embassy almost automatically rejects tourist visa applications by young Filipinas by default.  The Embassy can “smell” these kinds of visa applications from a mile away. Tourist visas are simply very difficult to acquire for Filipinos/Filipinas unless they can prove they have substantial assets in the Philippines (a reason to return).

I don’t see how a Chinese agency would have the ability to bypass this difficulty and acquire a tourist visa from the United States Embassy.

Speaking of tourist visas, the actual application cost around a hundred bucks at the US Embassy. I have no idea where this “agency” gets these fees from.

Hopefully you can see why none of this makes sense to me. It has all the marks of a scam. A few dollars for a website an a few hours of chatting can be very profitable for con artists.

My advice: let her know you are not going to apply for this “tourist visa.” Suggest other alternatives, like coming to visit her. You’ll probably see that she loses interest pretty quickly.

I recommend finding a legitimate website for meeting Filipinas if you are really looking for love in the Philippines.

Filipina Dating

heartI started this website quite a few years ago and I think it’s time for a bit of an update.

I want to summarize (and restate) some of the things I’ve said already in a longer, more comprehensive post.

Here’s your ultimate guide to Filipina dating. I’ll share the step you should consider if you plan to meet a woman from the Philippines online.

Step 1: Choose a Good Website

I would personally recommend Christian Filipina because I’ve communicated with the creator/owner of the website and he’s a good guy. I think he really does his best to make sure that members have a good experience. I also believe the name and theme of this particular site tends to draw the kind of woman you want: a conservative, God-fearing Filipina.

I don’t believe I ever encountered a scammer on Christian Filipina back when I was still searching for love. Having said that, you will have to take some cautionary steps regardless of what website you use. That brings me to my next step.

Step 2: Watch for Scammers

You’ll hear a lot about Pinay scammers of you search about Filipna dating on Google or YouTube. Some make too much of this phenomenon; others make too little of it. The bottom line is that part of your task will be to weed out those who are misrepresenting themselves (usually for the sake of financial gain). It isn’t that difficult if you’ll just do a few things:

*Do a little social media background check on the girl you are chatting with. She should give you her Facebook information so you can check here profile out. You should see several “natural” pictures–photos with friends, family, classmates, etc. Even those who are not rich tend to be active on social media, so it may be a “red flag” if she directs you to a profile that doesn’t have much on it.

There are also several social profile searches you can use: just Google “free social profile search.” Search her name and/or email address and you should get some idea of whether or not she is who she claims to be. You may also want to put her email address in Google (or other search engines) and just see what comes up.

*Do an image search. Tineye is a great search engine you can use to find out if a Filipina you want to meet or date is using a genuine picture. If she’s using celebrity/model photos you’ll see that pretty quickly. You may also want to do a Google image search on her name and just see what comes up.

*Use video chat. Services like Skype are great for two reasons. First, you’ll be able to see her and verify that she’s a living, breathing woman that looks like the pictures she’s sent you. More importantly, I’ve found that it’s much easier to get a sense of chemistry when you are actually talking (instead of typing).  It’s kind of the next best thing to talking to a Filipina in person.

Understand this: internet cafes with webcams are now widely available in the Philippines. If she refuses to do video chat I can promise you she a scammer. It’s one thing if she is occasionally unable to do video chat–but don’t trust her if she always makes excuses not to be on camera.

*Very important: never, never, never give money to someone you haven’t met in person! Don’t blame me or anyone else if you ignore this rule and get ripped off. I’ve heard quite a few testimonies of guys that have started sending money to a girl in the Philippines only to discover that she was using him.  These are the nightmare stories that give Filipina dating a bad name and ruin it for the sincere ones.  Women who ask for money or start giving you “hints” about their desperate situations are not worth the trouble. I would advise you to simply cut off communication if a Filipina asks for money (directly or indirectly).

One more thing: I have found that the scammers who are out for money are usually not that patient.  She’ll show her true colors pretty quickly if fleecing you is her only goal.  Scammers lose interest pretty quickly if they find out you won’t send any money or gifts before meeting in person.

Step 3: Cautiously Build Friendship and Trust

Let’s say you have met a girl that seems sincere and genuine. Chat with her as often as you can and build the friendship. Do not profess your love to her or start making promises about engagement/marriage if you haven’t met her in person. You may think you love her, but there are just too many things you will not know without meeting her in person.

In the meantime you can get to know each other through frequent chatting and emailing.

I’ll interject something here: you may be wondering how many girls you should chat with at once and how many you should plan to meet. I can’t give you a cut-and-dry answer for this. You’ll probably start by contacting more than one Filipina and see who responds. I know guys who narrowed it down to one “prospect” before visiting the Philippines. I’ve known of others who plan to meet more than one and making a decision once they visit the country. Either way can work and you’ll have to decide what is best for you. My main advice is just to be completely honest with the women you are chatting with regarding your intentions.

Step 4: Plan to Meet Her Within a Reasonable Time Frame

Let’s say you have narrowed your search down and believe you have found the girl of your dreams. I would encourage you to book your ticket to the Philippines and try to meet her as soon as practically possible (within a few weeks). As I’ve mentioned, this is the only way you’ll know for sure she’s the right one for you.

I’ve encountered men who have chatted with Filipinas for months or years without any “end game” in mind: no definite plans to go to the Philippines. Don’t do this if you are really serious about love and marriage–go meet her! Don’t waste your and her time!

Filipina Dating: Summing it Up

Hopefully these tips have helped you. I feel very grateful to be married to a Filipina and I think there are plenty of lovely, sincere women in the Philippines who would make excellent wives. A little wisdom and common sense will go a long way in finding the right one for you.