Respect

When you chat with a Filipina online, please be respectful. It’s OK to ask if she’s had boyfriends before.

Maybe it’s even OK to ask questions about her past (if that is important to you).

But please–don’t expect a Filipina to engage you in sexually explicit chats.  If that’s what you are after, there are plenty of websites out there which will cater to your cheap thrills.   Filipinas go to penpal websites to look for husbands, not perverted hook-ups.  Remember, most Filipinas are God-fearing, conservative women.

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Why am I saying this?  Because I’ve had more than one Filipina tell me she’s had bad experiences with disrespectful men.

If you are a gentleman, thank you–keep up the chivalrous conduct.

If you are a pervert, please don’t waste a girl’s time and stop giving all us Western men a bad name.  Get your freak on elsewhere and leave the penpal websites alone.

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Filipina Online Dating: How Many Messages will I Get?

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The answer, of course, depends on several factors.  Your age, your picture, what you say in your profile–all of these affect your attractiveness to women in the Philippines looking for love.

I will tell you this–I get at least a couple of messages a day (usually more), even when I’m not actively searching the site.  These are women who found me–all I “did” was keep my membership going.  As long as you are on a good, well-known site with plenty of members, you’ll get contacted.

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You won’t be interested in everyone who emails you.  But every message is another possibility for love–another step closer to finding love in the Philippines.

Marry a Filipina: Pictures on Asian Dating Websites

As I’ve mentioned before , I strongly suggest you post a few pictures once you’ve signed up with a dating website.  I’d also caution you against doing much corresponding with a girl without seeing a picture.  You may find yourself wasting a lot of time on someone you’re not even attracted to.

Most of the young women without pictures are not scammers–there are different reasonsanonymous_girl_facebook why they may choose not to post pictures:

*They haven’t scanned any photos.
*They don’t know how the website works.
*They are shy about showing their face on a dating website.
*They may be new and their photos are not yet approved.

Here’s my general policy for pictureless profiles:

*If a Filipina sends a message to me, I ask her to post her photo.  I don’t bother corresponding until I’ve seen a few photos.

*Under some circumstances, I’ll allow pictures to be sent to one of my email addresses (especially if it is a networking situation–someone who wants me to meet her relative).

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*Some Filipinas will say they have no picture but invite me to chat with them in webcam.  I usually don’t go for this.  In the first place, webcams often give very poor quality images.  It also puts me in the awkward situation of telling her whether or not I find her attractive on the spot.

Here’s the problem with exchanging pictures through email/webcam–it’s an extra, unnecessary step.   As I’ve mentioned, finding an Asian/Filipina bride is a numbers game.  You have hundreds of profiles to sort through and limited time (assuming you have a job).  It’s best to stick with profiles that have pictures.

If you want to exchange images off the website, it’s OK.  Just remember you are putting yourself through extra steps that wouldn’t be necessary if she had a few images on her profile.

Update:  Things have changed (somewhat) since I first wrote this post.  What I’ve said still applies, but it is becoming increasingly rare for someone to have no access to any kind of digital picture.