Should I get involved with a Filipina (Girl from the Philippines) Who is Separated?

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When I look at Filipina dating websites or penpal bride websites, I often see profiles of women who are separated.  I feel for these young women—this Filipina was probably abandoned by her husband, cheated on, or somehow mistreated.  It is possible that someone got this Filipina pregnant, married her, then walked out on her. 

Certainly this is not always the case, and I’m sure there are plenty of women in the Philippines that cheat or cause separation.  Just seems that a lot of times there is a cheating, abusing man involved who didn’t deserve this Filipina in the first place.

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Well, here’s what you need to know: divorce is not legal in the Philippines. Annulment is possible, but it is a long, difficult, and expensive process.

In other words, a separated Filipina is not legally able to remarry.  Considering the time and expense, such a Filipina is probably not going to be able to annul her marriage.

If you choose to get involved with a separated Filipina, just keep this in mind. There’s no guarantee that she can get an annulment.  If she can, there would be extra time and expense involved for her to be legally available for marriage.

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Does Age Matter to a Filipina? (part two)

There’s a follow-up thought that I need to ad to my first article regarding Filipinas and age. There are some societal/environmental differences that you should also consider.

By the time an American girl is 17, she’s probably only concerned about her report card or which Britney Spears CD to buy. A 17-year-old Filipina, on the other hand, may very well be the breadwinner for her family.

Filipinas graduate high school by age 16. If a young woman is able to go to college (many cannot afford to), she’ll probably graduate by the time she’s 20. Otherwise, she’ll look for work. As you can imagine, this does speed up the process of maturity. You may just meet a 18-year-old who has been working for the past two or three years.

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Thus a Filipina’s perspectives are far different than the before-mentioned American teen. She’s too busy surviving to spend her twenties “finding herself.” This level of maturity makes some Filipinas more prepared for marriage than their Western sisters.

Does Age Matter to Filipinas?

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Keep in my that I’m simply writing my own observations and opinions based on my time spent in the Philippines. This is by no means scientifically verifiable information.

Most Filipinas, like Westerners, marry men that are about the same age. I think it is safe to say, however, that Filipinas are generally (compared to Westerners) more open to marrying older men. I’m close to forty, and I get admired by much younger women (women in their 20’s and sometimes even younger). Most Western women of the same age bracket would not pay any attention to me, though I’m not a bad looking guy.

I regularly see Filipinas with older Western men. Money does play a role here, but I think Filipinas are not unique in this regard. Most women want a man who can provide for their needs. An average looking guy in a doctor’s coat looks much more appealing than a super-hunk wearing a janitor’s uniform. This is a simple fact of life. We are all aware of ugly millionaires that marry supermodels.

The average Westerner’s salary makes him wealthy by Philippine standards. In other words, the fact that you are established and financially stable does play a role in your appeal to a Filipina. She knows that you can probably give her a life that she may otherwise not attain. My salary, for example, would put me in a very low income bracket in my home country; yet I am considered “rich” in the Philippines.

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We shouldn’t say that money is the sole factor. Many Filipinas also appreciate the maturity and stability that an older man brings to a relationship–this seems to be a cultural value. This is especially important if a woman is looking for husband material. I’ve noticed that even older Filipino men can marry younger women, especially if they are financially established.

Having said all of this, you need to be realistic–Filipinas are not blind. If you are in your fifties or sixties, don’t expect 18-year-old beauty pageant winners to be flooding you with emails. I’ve chatted with several Filipinas on dating websites, and some of them complain that the men who send messages are just too old.

You will probably find an attractive, younger woman–maybe much younger. Just temper your hopes with a healthy dose of realism. If you are up in years, be open to relationships with women who are a little closer to your age (within a couple of decades). I think you’ll have better results this way.